Saturday, February 22, 2014
Adjacent Possibilities: Don't Pigeonhole Yourself!
This has to be one of my top favorite cards from this deck. I have received it quite a lot, too. Maybe a dozen times by now. It's definitely a theme for me! I love the various doors and windows. It shows that, in life, there are always lots of options, even if we don't see them. If we're blind to them in some way, that doesn't mean they aren't there.
I've received this message in both upright and reversed form. The meaning is similar, but the reversed card meaning carries the extra push to remember to not forget that there are other ideas, other possibilities out there. It suggests that I am having some myopia when it comes to my ideals and goals. And they would be right! I can get VERY, VERY narrowly fixated on things, missing huge areas entirely from a fear of not being good enough or having enough skill--or missing smaller niches due to a generally dismissive attitude.
In any event, this card thoroughly proved itself shortly before I drew it--I had been closing the door on the bath and body stuff, simply because I did not see other possibilities, other angles for it. A friend messaged me via Facebook, asking if I could put together a dozen carnival-themed gift baskets for her wedding. Funny, but this possibility would never have occurred to me had she not mentioned it. Furthermore, I could've said, 'No, I'm not making things like that anymore' or otherwise overlooked/shot down/obliterated the possibility, but instead I've decided to give it airtime, to allow myself to do various things, even if I may have prematurely shut the door on some of those things.
My husband has been telling me pretty frequently in recent days that I have this very narrow image of what I am capable of, and I don't really deviate from that. I don't try to expand my self concept and I am fearful of stepping out of what I have set up for myself. I'm even afraid to do what I think I can do! In general, I allow fear to rule me rather than excitement or curiosity.
To recap: I have been really, sincerely hoping for a clear direction...any direction, and when I see a window I shouldn't run for the door! Sometimes I do get very clear guidance and ideas, or input from others, and I don't really allow it. I see it and try to ignore it. I think being open is a very crucially helpful thing in life.